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Violence Against Women Quotes Biography 
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 “Now let's move on to the subject of how a real man treats his wife. A real man doesn't slap even a ten-dollar hooker around, if he's got any self respect, much less hurt his own woman. Much less ten times over the mother of his kids. A real man busts his ass to feed his family, fights for them if he has to, dies for them if he has to. And he treats his wife with respect every day of his life, treats her like a queen - the queen of the home she makes for their children.”
― S.M. Stirling, Dies the Fire
tags: dies-the-fire, domestic-violence, emberverse, stirling
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John Burnside
“My father was one of those men who sit in a room and you can feel it: the simmer, the sense of some unpredictable force that might, at any moment, break loose, and do something terrible. [Burnside, p. 27]”
― John Burnside, A Lie About My Father: A Memoir
tags: domestic-violence, family, fathers, violence
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Rachel Caine
“Don't play his game. Play yours.”
― Rachel Caine, Fall of Night
tags: abuse, claire-danvers, domestic-violence, morganville-vampires, stalker, stalking, survival, surviving
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Raymond Carver
“She serves me a piece of it a few minutes
out of the oven. A little steam rises
from the slits on top. Sugar and spice -
cinnamon - burned into the crust.
But she's wearing these dark glasses
in the kitchen at ten o'clock
in the morning - everything nice -
as she watches me break off
a piece, bring it to my mouth,
and blow on it. My daughter's kitchen,
in winter. I fork the pie in
and tell myself to stay out of it.
She says she loves him. No way
could it be worse.”
― Raymond Carver
tags: daughters, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, family, fathers, love, relationships
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Lionel Shriver
“It isn't very nice to admit, but domestic violence has its uses. So raw and unleashed, it tears away the veil of civilization that comes between us as much as it makes life possible. A poor substitute for the sort of passion we like to extol perhaps, but real love shares more in common with hatred and rage than it does with geniality or politeness.”
― Lionel Shriver, We Need to Talk About Kevin
tags: domestic-violence, passion, tear, veil, violence
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Núria Añó
“She could just pack up and leave, but she does not visualize what's beyond ahead.”
― Núria Añó
tags: courage, domestic-violence, dv, feminism, freedom, gender, gender-inequality, hypocrisy, identity, integrity, leave-home, leave-the-past, misogyny, pain, painfully, realism, reason, self-awareness, self-determination, women, women-s-day, women-s-rights
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Melda Beaty
“Never let a man put his hands on you without your permission.”
― Melda Beaty, Lime
tags: domestic-violence, notions-of-beauty, supermodels, womens-s-fiction
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Rachel Caine
“What are you going to do? Are you going to live in the dark, locked in here? Afraid to look out, answer the door, leave? Yes, he's out there, and he's clearly not going to leave you alone until one of three things happens: he hurts you and gets arrested, or he makes a mistake and gets arrested, or you stop him.”
― Rachel Caine, Fall of Night
tags: abuse, claire-danvers, domestic-violence, morganville-vampires, stalker, stalkers, stalking
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Tim Rogers
“I recognized the words "domestic violence" because the Japanese use the same words, only with blockier pronunciation. " Domesuchikku baiorensu". I think it's weird they use the same word; I'm pretty sure they invented domestic violence independently of us English-speakers, at the same time we were inventing it independently of them.”
― Tim Rogers, an incident involving a human body
tags: domestic-violence
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Lundy Bancroft
“The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands. His attitude is: “You owe me.” For each ounce he gives, he wants a pound in return. He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs—or her children’s—get neglected. You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he’ll never be satisfied for long. And he will keep feeling that you are controlling him, because he doesn’t believe that you should set any limits on his conduct or insist that he meet his responsibilities.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, entitlement
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Lundy Bancroft
“YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.
One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him. No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. The privilege of rage is reserved for him alone. When your anger does jump out of you—as will happen to any abused woman from time to time—he is likely to try to jam it back down your throat as quickly as he can. Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. Abuse can make you feel straitjacketed. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partner, abusive-relationships, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, physical-abuse
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“I realise I'm behind on this but Rebekah Brooks was married to Ross Kemp of Gangs fame?! And she assaulted him? That explains so much.”
― Mandy Wiener, Killing Kebble: An Underworld Exposed
tags: 2011, domestic-violence, marriage, news-international-phone-hacking, rebekah-brooks, ross-kemp, ross-kemp-on-gangs, twitter
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Lundy Bancroft
“Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did?
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you?
Has he ever shoved, poked, or grabbed you?
Has he ever threatened to hurt you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, domestic-violence, physical-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he’s not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abused-women, abuser, abusive-men, abusive-partner, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, physical-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical freedom and safety as a way to control you.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationships, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, physical-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“There certainly are some women who treat their male partners badly, berating them, calling them names, attempting to control them. The negative impact on these men’s lives can be considerable. But do we see men whose self-esteem is gradually destroyed through this process? Do we see men whose progress in school or in their careers grinds to a halt because of the constant criticism and undermining? Where are the men whose partners are forcing them to have unwanted sex? Where are the men who are fleeing to shelters in fear for their lives? How about the ones who try to get to a phone to call for help, but the women block their way or cut the line? The reason we don’t generally see these men is simple: They’re rare.
I don’t question how embarrassing it would be for a man to come forward and admit that a woman is abusing him. But don’t underestimate how humiliated a woman feels when she reveals abuse; women crave dignity just as much as men do. If shame stopped people from coming forward, no one would tell.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationships, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, physical-abuse, verbal-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative attitudes toward females, but men who have abusive fathers do; the disrespect that abusive men show their female partners and their daughters is often absorbed by their sons.
So while a small number of abusive men do hate women, the great majority exhibit a more subtle—though often quite pervasive—sense of superiority or contempt toward females, and some don’t show any obvious signs of problems with women at all until they are in a serious relationship.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-parents, abusive-partners, abusive-relationships, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence
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Andrew Scorah
“***CALL FOR SUBMISSION***
Not asking for any money, I'm asking you to do what you do best.
I am putting together a charity anthology where all the proceeds go to Women's Aid-Women's Aid is the key national charity working to end domestic violence against women and children. This is a cause dear to my and my family's heart.
So this is a CALL FOR SUBMISSIONS to any writer who wants to have a tale included in this book. I am not looking to do a book full of stories about domestic violence. I know the proceeds are going to Women's Aid, what I'm looking for is a broad spectrum of stories from different genre's. As it is for charity, this is a none paying gig. All proceeds will go to Women's Aid. I'm looking for tales of any genre up to 6000 words, and 2000 words minimum. Only stipulation, must include a strong female character at some point, even if she only makes a brief appearance. So if there are any of you fellow writers out there who want to get involved with this project want to be included message me for more details. Submissions open until 25th July
While you will not be paid for the story, you will be helping a most worthy cause, and will get more coverage for your name, free advertising is always good. Title to be confirmed at a later date.
Send your submission to a_scorah@live.co.uk. Attach it as a word file, and neatly formatted 12 point roman text, line spacing exactly 12 point,”
― Andrew Scorah
tags: anthology, charity-news, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence
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Lundy Bancroft
“The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are:
I need to control your every move or you will do it wrong.
I know the exact way that everything should be done.
You shouldn’t have anyone else — or any thing else — in your life besides me.
I am going to watch you like a hawk to keep you from developing strength or independence.
I love you more than anyone in the world, but you disgust me. (!!)”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partner, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, physical-abuse, sexual-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“The central attitudes driving Rambo are:
Strength and aggressiveness are good; compassion and conflict resolution are bad.
Anything that could be even remotely associated with homosexuality, including walking away from possible violence or showing any fear or grief, has to be avoided at any cost.
Femaleness and femininity (which he associates with homosexuality) are inferior. Women are here to serve men and be protected by them.
Men should never hit women, because it is unmanly to do so. However, exceptions to this rule can be made for my own partner if her behavior is bad enough. Men need to keep their women in line.
You are a thing that belongs to me, akin to a trophy.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, domestic-violence, physical-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“The confusion of love with abuse is what allows abusers who kill their partners to make the absurd claim that they were driven by the depths of their loving feelings. The news media regrettably often accept the aggressors’ view of these acts, describing them as “crimes of passion.” But what could more thoroughly prove that a man did not love his partner? If a mother were to kill one of her children, would we ever accept the claim that she did it because she was overwhelmed by how much she cared? Not for an instant. Nor should we. Genuine love means respecting the humanity of the other person, wanting what is best for him or her, and supporting the other person’s self-esteem and independence. This kind of love is incompatible with abuse and coercion.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationships, domestic-violence
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Lundy Bancroft
“Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-violence, physical-abuse, signs-of-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to get a better grip.” I always correct him: "Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it’s that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don’t need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse-recovery, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence
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Lundy Bancroft
“Never believe a man’s claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partners, abusive-relationship, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence
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Lundy Bancroft
“The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when she doesn’t want intimate contact. He sees sexual rights to a woman as akin to mineral rights to land—and he owns them.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-men, abusive-partners, domestic-violence, sexual-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“ALCOHOL HAS NO BIOLOGICAL CONNECTION TO ABUSE OR VIOLENCE
Alcohol does not directly make people belligerent, aggressive, or violent. There is evidence that certain chemicals can cause violent behavior — anabolic steroids, for example, or crack cocaine — but alcohol is not among them. In the human body, alcohol is actually a depressant, a substance that rarely causes aggression. Marijuana similarly has no biological action connected to abusiveness.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-partners, domestic-violence, substance-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“A man’s beliefs about the effects of the substance will largely be borne out. If he believes that alcohol can make him aggressive, it will, as research has shown. On the other hand, if he doesn’t attribute violence-causing powers to substances, he is unlikely to become aggressive even when severely intoxicated.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, abusive-partners, domestic-violence, substance-abuse
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Lundy Bancroft
“Alcohol does not a change a person’s fundamental value system. People’s personalities when intoxicated, even though somewhat altered, still bear some relationship to who they are when sober. When you are drunk you may behave in ways that are silly or embarrassing; you might be overly familiar or tactlessly honest, or perhaps careless or forgetful. But do you knock over little old ladies for a laugh? Probably not. Do you sexually assault the clerk at the convenience store? Unlikely. People’s conduct while intoxicated continues to be governed by their core foundation of beliefs and attitudes, even though there is some loosening of the structure. Alcohol encourages people to let loose what they have simmering below the surface.
ABUSERS MAKE CONSCIOUS CHOICES EVEN WHILE INTOXICATED”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
tags: abuse, alcohol, alcohol-abuse, domestic-violence, intoxication, physical-abuse, substance-abuse
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“And there’s one other matter I must raise. The epidemic of domestic sexual violence that lacerates the soul of South Africa is mirrored in the pattern of grotesque raping in areas of outright conflict from Darfur to the Democratic Republic of the Congo, and in areas of contested electoral turbulence from Kenya to Zimbabwe. Inevitably, a certain percentage of the rapes transmits the AIDS virus. We don’t know how high that percentage is. We know only that women are subjected to the most dreadful double jeopardy.

The point must also be made that there’s no such thing as the enjoyment of good health for women who live in constant fear of rape. Countless strong women survive the sexual assaults that occur in the millions every year, but every rape leaves a scar; no one ever fully heals.

This business of discrimination against and oppression of women is the world’s most poisonous curse. Nowhere is it felt with greater catastrophic force than in the AIDS pandemic. This audience knows the statistics full well: you’ve chronicled them, you’ve measured them, the epidemiologists amongst you have disaggregated them. What has to happen, with one unified voice, is that the scientific community tells the political community that it must understand one incontrovertible fact of health: bringing an end to sexual violence is a vital component in bringing an end to AIDS.

The brave groups of women who dare to speak up on the ground, in country after country, should not have to wage this fight in despairing and lonely isolation. They should hear the voices of scientific thunder. You understand the connections between violence against women and vulnerability to the virus. No one can challenge your understanding. Use it, I beg you, use it.”
― Stephen Lewis
tags: africa, aids, darfur, democratic-republic-of-the-congo, discrimination, domestic-violence, health, hiv, isolation, kenya, marital-rape, misogyny, oppression, rape, rape-culture, sexism, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, south-africa, sudan, united-nations, violence, violence-against-women, zimbabwe
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“The abuser does not believe, however, that his level of authority over the children should be in any way connected to his actual level of effort or sacrifice on their behalf, or to how much knowledge he actually has about who they are or what is going on in their lives. He considers it his right to make the ultimate determination of what is good for them even if he doesn’t attend to their needs or even if he only contributes to those aspects of child care that he enjoys or that make him look like a great dad in public.”
― Lundy Bancroft Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men 

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